Come back and give it a try again. Hubby can mine and craft all he wants. There are a good many castle and keep designs now so you can change it. It wouldn't cost an arm or leg or both like it does on prodo.
You can check out the houses on test and see which fits. I go there to test out the build it your self models and try different walls floor and such. There are places around to build. Malas has tons of spots if you like Malas but fel has some too.